That varies but mainly evenings.

What does any slave seek? Someone who is both Powerful and Compassionate in the balance right for their personal need. That balance varies from individual to individual. And yes, there are many other more personal factors also. But in essence, that is what a slave needs. Someone powerful enough to control them to the core of their soul, and someone compassionate enough to apply that control with discretion.

Someone who is extremely trustworthy & gentle in their absolute firmness makes an excellent Master. Someone who is there to guide through control, but who would never abuse via domination. Someone who accepts the slave’s limits (including a safe word, or gesture if gagged), yet brings his slave right to the edge of their capacities.

A good Master knows what is safe and what is not safe and would never dream of doing anything that would actually harm either himself or his slave. The Master must trust that the slave has carefully considered and established and communicated her limits, and the slave trust that the Master will abide those limits and her use of a safe-word or safe-gesture. It’s only within those bounds that a good Master has the power of deciding how to use his whim.

But everything within the bounds they agree upon (primarily set by his slave experiences and fears) is then in the realm of the Master’s control. He will both manage all his own actions and guide his slave’s actions to their mutual satisfaction. This means he must be very observant, caring, self-aware, gentle, loving, and have compatible interests with his slave. A Master dominates through pleasure, by knowing the sub and using her own pleasures against her.

In words of one of my submissives:

"You are very nice to me, but I know you can switch and I know that you remember things like when I've been cheeky.

I know you don't need to say much to get me do things.

You don't have to swear at me or shout at me to get me to do what you want.

You stay scarily calm and quiet.

You haven't shouted at me or got angry at me. I've never had that and yet still be able to get me to do what you want."

Important notice:

If you plan to contact me strictly about BDSM make sure that you are respectful and use CAPITAL letter while addressing me and use small letter even within "i" if talking about yourself.

Respect is an absolute must but it has to be earned even if it's just by the right approach in the very beginning.